7 Ways to Know the Narcissist Is Getting Pleasure Out of Your Pain Narcissists don’t just hurt people by accident—many of them take pleasure in seeing others suffer. Your emotional reactions feed their ego and reinforce their sense of control. Recognising these behaviours can help you protect yourself. One clear sign is that they smirk or stay unnervingly calm when you’re upset. While most people feel empathy, a narcissist may appear amused, signalling that your distress reassures them. They als